HarperCollins Speakers Bureau

Janis Abrahms Spring, Ph.D., ABPP

Author & Nationally Acclaimed Expert on Issues of Trust, Intimacy, and Forgiveness


  • 10 Steps to Heal Yourself — Without Forgiving
  • Please Don’t Ask Me to Forgive You! A Radical Approach to Healing Relationship Wounds
  • How Can I Forgive You? The Courage to Forgive, The Freedom Not To
  • After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful
  • Life with Pop: Lessons on Caring for an Aging Parent
  • Healing Relationship Wounds — With and Without Forgiving
  • De-cluttering Your Mind



Janis Abrahms Spring, Ph.D., ABBP is a nationally acclaimed expert on issues of trust, intimacy, and forgiveness. She is author of the award-winning How Can I Forgive You? The Courage to Forgive, The Freedom Not To (William Morrow Paperbacks), Life with Pop: Lessons on Caring for an Aging Parent, and After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful (William Morrow Paperbacks), which has sold more than ½ million copies.

A staggering number of couples in America—about 70 percent—have been affected by extramarital affairs. After the Affair is the only book to offer proven strategies for surviving the crisis and rebuilding the relationship. Spring brings the groundbreaking classic into the 21st century, with sections of the book dealing with online affairs in cyberspace. For partners who are struggling in their marriage—and for clinicians, psychology academics and readers fascinated by of popular psychology—this newly revised and updated edition of After the Affair is essential reading.

Until now, we have been taught that forgiveness is good for us and that good people forgive. In How Can I Forgive You?, Spring proposes a radical, life-affirming alternative that lets us overcome the corrosive effects of hate and get on with our lives—without forgiving. She also offers a powerful and unconventional model for genuine forgiveness—one that asks as much of the offender as it does of us. The bold and healing book offers step-by-step, concrete instructions that help us make peace with others and with ourselves.

In private practice in Westport, Connecticut for 40 years, Spring is a recipient of the Connecticut Psychological Association’s Award for Distinguished Contribution to the Practice of Psychology and the Connecticut Association of Marriage and Family Therapists Award for Distinguished Family Service. Board Certified in Clinical Psychology, she is a former clinical supervisor in the Department of Psychology at Yale University, and a popular media guest on programs such as NPR and Good Morning America.




Praise for After the Affair

After the Affair is the most comprehensive and balanced book I have ever read on the subject. It is ‘must’ reading for any couple who has experienced the violation of trust as a result of an affair.” --Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., author of Getting the Love You Want

After the Affair is a wonderful guide for couples who want to reconstruct their relationship after one partner has been unfaithful. In clear, sparkling prose, Dr. Spring explains the sources of infidelity and offers sound, sensible guidelines for mending the relationship.”
--Aaron T. Beck, M.D., author of Love is Never Enough

“Dr. Spring possesses a remarkable combination of clarity, wisdom, spirit, and heart. This is an extremely helpful and healing book – a gift to us all.”
--Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., author of The Dance of Anger

“After the Affair is the go-to book for anyone who has been through the hurt and betrayal of infidelity.  This is the best guide for both individuals and couples who want to survive an affair and really make their relationships work.  It gives clear direction, and it’s hopeful, realistic and  beautifully written.  The author is the most approachable writer on this subject today.  She is current, wise and incredibly understanding.”
--Tammy Nelson, Ph.D., author of The New Monogamy and Getting the Sex You Want

Praise for How Can I Forgive You?:

“If you are struggling with issues of betrayal – or the challenge of whether and how to forgive–here is the most helpful and surprising book you will ever find on the subject.”
--Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., author of The Dance of Anger

“A fresh and original approach to an ancient challenge. A clinically informed guide for the offender and the offended. How Can I Forgive You? should be read by us all.”
--Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., author of Getting the Love You Want

“Finally a book has been written that teaches couples how to make genuine forgiveness a reality without rushing toward a superficial peace. This book can help couples construct a marriage that never existed before, one based on deep understanding and trust.”
--John Gottman, Ph.D., author of The Relationship Cure

“This book is a treasure trove for anyone who has ever felt betrayed or hurt in a personal relationship. Dr. Spring cuts through all the cliche’s surrounding forgiveness and views it within a broad spectrum of common relationships – mother-daughter, father-son, student-teacher, husband-wife. We owe her a debt of gratitude for this enlightened and penetrating view of a universal human dilemma.”
-- Peggy Papp, M.S.W., author of Couples on the Fault Line

“This book is a treasure – practical, authentic, illuminating, and wise. It’s like a breath of fresh air that puts forgiveness in a new and revealing light and provides clear steps to turn wounds into wisdom.”
--Joan Borysenko, Ph.D., author of Minding the Body, Mending the Mind and Inner Peace for Busy People

“Clear, insightful…a thoughtful exposition on the nuanced role of forgiveness in relationships that goes beyond the average self-help book.”
--Publishers Weekly