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Ian Kerner

Renowned Sex & Relationship Expert


  • Be Honest -You're Not That Into Him Either
  • She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman
  • He Comes Next: The Thinking Woman's Guide to Pleasuring a Man


New York

Ian Kerner, Ph.D., FAACS, is the author of She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman, which was selected by both Amazon.com and Borders as a “Best of 2004” non-fiction title and has been translated into numerous languages around the world. He followed it with the companion book, He Comes Next: The Thinking Woman’s Guide to Pleasuring a Man. Kerner also authored the New York Times best-seller Be Honest, You’re Not That Into Him Either, and D.S.I. Date Scene Investigation: The Diagnostic Manual of Dating Disorders. Kerner also contributed a chapter on how to have a satisfying sex life for the Experts Guide to Life at Home. He has more books about sex in development.

“The Sex-Doctor to Generations X&Y,” Kerner’s journey to counseling professionally, grew out of his own personal battle with sexual dysfunction and his desire to help others. With so many relationships often disintegrating within the first five years of marriage or cohabitation, Kerner frequently works with young couples in their 20s and 30s to address issues that are common to the “American bedroom” but nonetheless lead to lives of quiet desperation.

Kerner has appeared frequently on the Today Show as well as Good Morning America, CNN’s Anderson Cooper 360, Paula Zahn Now, Dateline NBC, CBS Early Show, Fox News, MSNBC, and Strictly Sex with Dr. Drew, among others. He is currently co-hosting a television series for the Discovery Health Channel entitled Love on the Rocks, as well as appearing on NBC’s Starting Over.

He has been read in the pages of Cosmo, Men’s Health, O Magazine, Redbook, Maxim, and the New York Times to name a few, and he has been heard on Howard Stern, the Laura Berman Show, and the Wendy Williams Experience. Kerner is a relationship expert for Lifetime Television, as well as AOL Coaches, and he also contributes advice on sexual health and fitness to eDiets.com.

In addition to meeting regularly with patients, Kerner lectures nationally on a variety of subjects related to sex and relationships. He is certified to counsel patients by the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT) and is a Diplomat in Sex Therapy of the American Board of Sexology. He is also a member of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, The International Society for the Study of Women’s Sexual Health and The Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality (SSIS), in addition to being on the faculty of the American Academy of Clinical Sexologists.

Kerner is a Phi Beta Kappa graduate of Brandeis University and also holds advanced degrees from New York University and the American Academy of Sexologists. He is a former Thomas J. Watson Fellow and recipient of the Erwin J. Haberle Award in Clinical Sexology.

Kerner was born and raised in New York City where he resides with his wife, Lisa Rubisch, a commercial and music-video director, their son, Owen, and a Jack Russell Terrier named Houdini.